To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, be nothing. But if you want to be someone and maybe even live an exciting and daring life, you have to be ready to be criticized. One of the strengths of a good leader is to be able to withstand criticism from all levels and make use of whatever is useful criticism and discard or ignore the terrible criticism.
Even if leadership is not really your bag there will always come the time where you have to step up. Stepping up and doing something or saying something and putting yourself out there to be critiqued by your peers, your boss, your subordinates…. its how things work.
For the most part it is very hard to do the right thing. Those that do will find that this group is often a minority.
Men and women are challenged everyday with this. To take the higher road when the low road is wide open. To work harder when being lazy is just as simple as saying “I’m tired and I don’t want to do anymore.”
For every time you “step up” there will be others who see that they don’t have to and instead step down. This can be frustrating especially when you are trying to lead. When this happens several times it gets harder to maintain your hard work ethic.
But focusing on this is negative. It will drag you down. Instead you have to think like a man ( or a woman who chooses to be powerful ) and focus on the job at hand. Stay firm, this is a test. It is a test on how you handle yourself. But who is it that is testing you? Is it the crowed who lets you go at it alone? No. They already made their decision, if they don’t want to participate then leave them. It is rather a test on you by you! Always work hard to not impress others but yourself. Show YOU what you are really capable of. Never look for approval. Like I said , be a man and a leader.
Focus on the positive and there will be the ones whose eye you catch. They will recognize what you are doing and they will believe in you. These people will find inspiration and be motivated by you. They will let you lead.
It may only be one or two people while those who step down and away may be plentiful. Expect this ratio because again, it is hard to do the right thing. It is much easier to let someone else do the work, especially when the same benefit is had by all. But that is how it is.
We cannot be bogged down by this group of people, realize that you bring quality to the table and you mean business.